Family life is better than I imagined it would be. I love it.
Yeah, it was an adjustment to make. That’s a good way to put it. I think any time two different human beings start to come to grips with the fact that they have another person attached to them for the rest of their lives until they die, there’s going to be some friction as they figure out how to live as their own person, and still try to help another person be happy and fulfilled.
Sometimes this means giving up parts of yourself that you like for the other person, sometimes it means that parts of yourself that no one liked in the first place get replaced by better parts that you adopted from your spouse. The latter seems to be the case for me, which has been the best part of it so far. Having to relate closely to another person makes me have to care how other people feel, and not be so arrogant or pretentious or prideful, or so consumed with myself.
Somebody had a really good quote that I posted on here a while ago, it said "love shows you a picture of yourself that you’ve never seen before" and I think that’s so true.
In answer to your question, marriage was an adjustment, but it was a much needed adjustment, because it shows me how other people see me, and hopefully it’s making me a slightly better person overall.